God did not want for things to be “this way” – warped and distorted. When He created Adam and Eve, He intended for their love to be a beautiful reflection of the love of the Trinity. Out of love, He created Adam and Eve with free will. They could choose to trust God and return His love, or not to do so. People sometimes ask, “If God knew that Adam and Eve would choose wrongly, why didn’t He stop them?” He surely could have! True – but what is love without free will? It is not love, but control. God did not wish to control us like puppets on a string. That kind of love is not love at all.
Because Adam and Eve gave into temptation, death came to four perfect relationships – their relationship with God, with each other, with the physical world and their own body-soul relationships. Suffering, death, hunger, mistrust, insecurity, struggle … all came into play. This lost inheritance that Adam and Eve passed onto the human race is called original sin. Original sin is the reason so many suffer with selfishness and broken relationships today.
What is one thing that all humans – male and female – have in common? We all crave happiness, purpose and love. Because of our brokenness, many are out there seeking these things in all the wrong places. The only place we will find true and lasting happiness and fulfillment is in God.
The good news is that – we are broken – yes, but there is nothing more powerful than God’s love for us. Remember John 3:16? He does not leave us to our own sad devices. He came to save and restore!
(“Theology of the Body for Teens”, Middle School Edition, Ascension Press 2011)